Hi Kora,
That totally makes sense! I just have a question  - how do you tell the difference between someone who has found their path and their way to healing and someone who is repeating a negative pattern of trying to control instead of allow? I just battle with this myself and was wondering is it really a fine line between the two or are there obvious pointers that you are headed in the right direction? It seems like he was doing a lot of things to fix himself and alleviate his situation, can this in itself not cause a conflict? .. Sorry I'm not sure if my question is clear.... :) thank you!