Hi Kora

Thanks for that, I'm pleased I was on the right track but particularly that I was able to pass on some info to my daughter.  Actually, if I hadn't bought a physical copy of the book and read the wrong pages (turns out to have different page numbers to the ebook) I wouldn't have come across the effects of too much contact at this stage.  Obviously meant to be.

Your suggestion to explore our beliefs and emotions about the right amount of closeness strikes a chord.  My grandmas were poles apart on the physical contact front and there are many more examples that thread through mine and my daughters lives that now spring to mind.  Clearly a theme I'm meant to resolve in this lifetime for the benefit of all those past and all those yet to come.  I'm excited, thank you so much.