Hi Kora , 
 Here’s a conclusion of tools I hope they’re correct : 

1. How to calm someone : 
     - breathing exercises, box breathing method.
     - Grounding 
     - stimulating the vagus nerve by some eye-muscle      exercise, singing, listening to calming voices that you like, meditation, going out with a good friend, using anchors, chewing gum or making humming sounds , washing your face and hands with cold water .

2. To direct attention :
     - make some kind of confusion to the brain by : 
         a) motion and changing the physical position.
         b) activate sensations like Aromatic smells ,
             Some sounds , touch , to remind them of 
             what they feel when they’re unconscious and 
             awaken their feelings  to what it feels like
          C)exercise and engage them with a safe
               movement plan that fits their current health          
              state.
           D) connect them to events that they already 
                went through and were able to go out of ! 
           E) Direct their attention to the moment they’re 
                now in .
3. To create a distance:
     - put some healthy boundaries and engage them with some “self- Time” activities  where they nourish their skills and develop .

4. For resourcing:
    -Awaken their inner resources by reminding them   
      of things they already know and good at .
   - Use some anchors.
   - Use some outer resources and get help from 
       Others .

5.For Balancing:
    - identify what triggers their manic states and what triggers their depressive state and try to find the balance between both .

Plz kora help in more tools to use in 3,4,5 and plz correct me in the previous ones .

Thanks in advance :)