Hi Kora,
I just have to say that the coaching demos were incredible for me, I found so much value in them and could definitely relate to a number of Bens issues. When he spoke about self righteousness, a huge big light bulb went off for me... well at first I cringed a bit because its a difficult thing to admit to :) ... I have been told in the past by friends and family that I was very self righteous. I am becoming a lot more aware of it now when the urge arises from my belly but Ive also discovered, when I was willing to really look at it, that it is also a defence mechanism for me. Living with a lot of fear and anxiety, I felt that I had to be right to feel safe otherwise I could not make sense of my world and that if I was wrong I would not be valuable or useful. 
If someone had an opinion that differed from mine, I found it very hard to see things from their perspective I had to control what the people around me thought and believed otherwise I would feel unrooted and anxious. This has also been associated with a feeling of 'hyper vigilance' and the need for everyone to feel safe and comfortable but only on my terms. Like Ben, I have more awareness now, but Im not totally cured from being a self righteous pain in the butt .. :) The more I find out who I am, the more I can allow others to be who they want to be ... so thank you so much, it gave me a lot of food for thought and highlighted some things I really need to discover...

so grateful! xx Verity